Couples Activity: "Where are we now? Where are we going? What is our vision?"
“I tell couples all the time that they have to have a vision for their marriage. If God has a purpose for your marriage—and I believe He does—then vision is letting God reveal to you what that purpose is. It’s asking, “God, why did you put us together?” and listening for the answer.” -Jimmy Evans
We encourage you to join us and set aside time, whether it’s a weekend getaway or a few nights out (without kids) to seek the Lord together in prayer and in the Scriptures. Earnestly ask Him to impart HIS vision on behalf of your marriage and family (His will). The idea is to create a vision so that you have purpose and a more meaningful mission in marriage. Vision is vital for the health of your marriage. Identify any current stumbling blocks, come into agreement with the Lord and with each other, and work toward a unified vision for your marriage and family. Knowing God's design and purpose for your marriage will help you stay focused as a team and fulfill the Great Commission! Remember, His will for your marriage and family is far greater than the burdens that threaten your marital union.
Before you begin to create a vision for your marriage, start by lovingly discussing these series of questions together openly, honestly, and respectfully:
1. Why has God brought you together?
2. Where are we right now? And where do we want to be?
3. Discuss Proverbs 29:18 together, “Where there is no vision, the people perish…” What does this mean to each of you and why would this be important in the context of your marriage?
4. Discuss Amos 3:3, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” How willing are you to work together to solve problems, come into agreement, and pursue a unified vision together?
5. What are YOU going to do to move from where you are now and into the vision God has for your marriage? What steps are YOU going to take and how committed are you to making these changes?
Creating a vision for your marriage:
Start by praying Romans 12:1-2 out loud together:
“Therefore I urge you, brothers and sisters, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies [dedicating all of yourselves, set apart] as a living sacrifice, holy and well-pleasing to God, which is your rational (logical, intelligent) act of worship. And do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].”
Then, together, write out the vision God has given you for your marriage. Take your time to pray together, communicate, talk respectfully, actively listen, and sit in God’s presence until you hear His voice. Once you have written out your vision, discuss ways each of you can actively pursue the vision God has given you. It may help to put your vision somewhere that you can refer to it often.
All For His Glory,
-JR and Becca Gonzales